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Spice Up Your Love Life With Aromatherapy Using Essential Oils

Updated: Dec 25, 2023

Create your love potion...or something close with essential oils.

Essential oils are one of the most potent natural ingredients used in skincare. They are superfoods for the body as a whole and have to be used with care in other to get the desired effect. What I love most about essential oils is how versatile they are. Not only can you use them to get beautiful hair or skin, but they can also help to spice things up in your love life.

Essential oils are great starters for lovemaking as they help set the mood and pace. The thing is, being able to let yourself go and be receptive to all the sensual caresses from your partner can sometimes be difficult. Stress, depression, anxiety, insecurities, and overly high expectations can set your mind into override mode when it comes to getting intimate. There’s nothing more to enjoying quality sex and intimacy than a relaxed mind. Getting the skin benefits from using aromatherapy to spice up your sex life is the cherry on the top.

How Does it Work?

I know at this point you must think all of this is far-fetched but there is a science behind all these claims.

The aromatic compounds found in essential oils first interact with our olfactory system and almost immediately the brain. The amygdala is the emotional center of the brain, while the hippocampus plays an essential role in the formation of new memories about past experiences. In the brain, the hypothalamus is directly related to hormone control and it regulates sex drive, energy levels, and production of hormones. Simply put, once you inhale an essential oil, its scent hits the olfactory membrane responsible for the perception of smell which is then relayed to the behavioral and emotional part of the brain.

Essential oils will impact the hypothalamus in different ways, in our case today we’re looking for romance and excitement!

Essential Oils For Romantic Massage

The most common way you can use essential oils for more heated intimate sessions is for massage. Ever wondered why you feel extremely relaxed after you receive an oil massage in a spa? Well, essential oils when applied absorb into your skin in 20 seconds and take 20 mins to reach every cell of your body. Imagine a full-body massage with an aphrodisiac essential oil blend. Sounds interesting right?

Massaging your partner with essential oils offers you a great opportunity to reconnect with each other while rubbing away all the tension and stress they might be feeling. Here’s how to go about it!

Start with a foot massage. Make sure to focus on the heel, most especially the middle section just under the ball of the foot, and the inside of the ankle. This is where the reflexology points are for our reproductive organs! Then move up to a back massage with emphasis on the lower back on the sacrum area. This will arouse them. Push their arousal further slide down the inner thigh and just gently massage them in slow and circular motions.

Image portraying a sensual massage or aromatherapy.

These oils can be a source of great pleasure but the dosage in which they are used should be respected. A few drops are all you need. Essential oils are very potent plant extracts. To avoid skin irritations, make sure to test out the oil on a patch of your skin before applying it all over your body.

The Essential Oils to Use For More Intimacy

When it comes to intimacy, everybody has a different need and this will impact the choice of essential oil you will need to support you. For example, someone who is anxious before having sex will need a different essential oil than someone who is tired and needs an energy boost. Essential oils can be classified according to what they soothe and special blends can be made out of them. I have compiled a list of the 6 most used essential oils and how they work to soothe or heighten your emotions.

Rose Essential Oil

This oil improves digestion, blood circulation, and semen production while reducing stress and nervous tension. Most importantly, it gives you and your partner an aura of love and strength.

Ylang Ylang

Ylang-Ylang is a very renowned aphrodisiac. Its properties help control your emotions if you are upset or super-aroused. It will also contribute to soothing feelings such as anxiety, anger, worry, and fear, and will help set the mood for a deeper and more connected sexual/loving experience.

Clary Sage

If you want to get creative in the bedroom clary sage essential oil is definitely what you should go for. This oil is a powerful aphrodisiac that boosts creativity by maintaining your focus and paving the way for more inspirational thoughts and sexual adventures.


Though not everyone loves the scent of patchouli oil, it helps uplift the mood. It relieves stress-related tension and will do away with the feeling of anxiety. Patchouli promotes a great sense of well-being and also reduces nervous tension and frigidity. Use this oil before a love-making session to just calm your mind so you can focus on bringing pleasure to your partner.


This flower is considered to be the flower of romance. Its essential oil when inhaled causes feelings of euphoria, confidence, and optimism. If you are a shy person and you want to act and feel sexier for your partner this should be your pick. Jasmine oil also helps to get rid of feelings such as apathy, listlessness, or indifference. If you're looking to re-ignite the passion then you need Jasmine in your life.

Neroli or Sweet Orange Oil

It increases sexual desire and reduces blood pressure in women especially when libido is low due to hormonal imbalance or stress. If you are on birth control which affects your libido, get your partner to massage you with some of this oil to get things going. I take a bath every evening with some Castille soap (which I make myself) scented with sweet orange essential oil and this helps calm me down and takes away the stress from the day.

When it comes to intimacy there is a large array of essential oils to choose from. The list above is not exhaustive but it serves as a starting point for you.


Can Aromatherapy Oils Be Used On the Skin?

Essential oils can be used on the skin but should be diluted in carrier oils of plant oils like sunflower oil. Using too much of an essential oil directly on the skin could lead to irritation.

Where to Buy Aromatherapy Oils?

Depending on where you find yourself you can find aromatherapy oils in your local beauty stores, or shop online on websites like Amazon.

How Does Aromatherapy Reduce Stress?

Aromatherapy utilizes natural plant extracts, especially essential oils, to promote emotional and physical well-being. When inhaled, these oils can impact our limbic system, influencing emotions and physiological functions.

Some oils have direct chemical effects that induce calm, while others promote sleep or stimulate feel-good neurotransmitters. The act of focusing on the aroma can foster mindfulness, and when combined with practices like massage, aromatherapy enhances relaxation. However, individual responses vary, and it's crucial to use high-quality oils safely, considering potential allergies and ensuring proper dilution.


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